"Give Your Best To Relationships"

A boy and a girl were playing together. The boy had a collection of marbles. The girl had some sweets with her.

The boy told the girl that he will give her all his marbles in exchange for her sweets. The girl agreed. The boy kept the biggest and the most beautiful marble aside and gave the rest to the girl. The girl gave him all her sweets as she had promised.

That night, the girl slept peacefully. But the boy couldn’t sleep as he kept wondering if the girl had hidden some sweets from him the way he had hidden his best marble.

Moral of the story:
If you don’t give your hundred percent in a relationship, you’ll always keep doubting if the other person has given his/her hundred percent..

This is applicable for any relationship like love, employer-employee relationship etc., Give your hundred percent to everything you do and sleep peacefully.

"10 Principles for Peace of Mind"

1. Do Not Interfere In Others’ Business Unless Asked:

Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others’ affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God.. God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace.


2. Forgive And Forget:

This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive,20Forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.


3. Do Not Crave For Recognition:

This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yours if in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.


4. Do Not Be Jealous:

We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody’s life is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.


5. Change Yourself According To The Environment:

If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.


6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured:

This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power.


7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew:

This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.


8. Meditate Regularly:

Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time.


9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant:

An empty mind is the devil’s workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God’s name.


10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret:

Do not waste time in protracted wondering ” Should I or shouldn’t I?” Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. Why cry over split milk?

Destroying and Rebuilding...

I am invited to go to Guncan-Gima, the site of a Zen Buddhist temple. When I get there, I am surprised to see that the extraordinarily beautiful building, which is situated in the middle of a vast forest, is right next to a huge piece of waste ground.
 
I ask what the waste ground is for and the man in charge explains (I can’t verify if it is true, but it must be):
 
‘That is where we will build the next temple.
‘Every twenty years, we destroy the temple you see before you now and rebuild it again on the site next to it.
‘This means that the monks who have trained as carpenters, stonemasons and architects are always using their practical skills and passing them on to their apprentices.
‘ It also shows them that nothing in this life is eternal and that even temples are in need of constant improvement.’

How useful you are ?

Ask a flower in the field: ‘Do you feel useful? After all, you do nothing but produce the same flowers over and over?’
And the flower will answer: ‘I am beautiful, and beauty is my reason for living.’
Ask the river: ‘Do you feel useful, giv

en that all you do is to keep flowing in the same direction?’
And the river will answer: ‘I’m not trying to be useful, I’m trying to be a river.’
Don’t try to be useful. Try to be yourself: that is enough, and that makes all the difference.
Walk neither faster nor slower than your own soul. Because it is your soul that will teach you the usefulness of each step you take.
Sometimes taking part in a great battle, 

But sometimes you can do that simply by smiling, for no reason, at someone you happen to pass in the street.

Without intending to, you might have saved the life of a complete stranger, who also thought he was useless and might have been ready to kill himself, until a smile gave him new hope and confidence.

Paying for same thing three times ...

There is a legend in the region of Punjab, about a thief who broke into a farm and stole two hundred onions. But before he could make his escape, he was caught by the farmer and led before the judge.

The magistrate past sentence: the payment of ten gold pieces.
But the man alleged that the fine was too high, so the judge offered him two alternatives: to be whipped twenty times, or eat the two hundred onions.

The thief chose to eat the two hundred onions.
When he had eaten twenty-five, his eyes were already filled with tears, and his stomach was burning up like the fires of hell.
Since there were still 175 to go, and he knew he would never bear this punishment, he begged to be thrashed twenty times.

The judge agreed. But when the whip tore into his back for the tenth time, he implored for the punishment to be stopped, for he could not stand the pain.
His wish was granted, but the thief still had to pay the ten pieces of gold.

- If you had accepted the fine, you would have avoided eating the onions and wouldn’t have suffered with whip – said the judge.

- But you preferred the more difficult path, not understanding that, when you have done wrong, it is better to pay up quickly and forget the matter.

The Boy & the Devil

The boy was walking to buy bread when the mayor of the city crossed the street.

‘The reason he is so powerful, is because, he’s made a pact with the devil,’ a very devout woman in the street told the boy.

Some time later, when travelling to another town, the boy saw a beautiful corn field. He asked who the owner was.
‘All this land belongs to the same man. I’d say the Devil had a hand in that.’ – answered one of the villagers.

At this very moment, a beautiful woman walked past the boy. A priest also saw her and said aloud:
‘That woman is in the services of Satan!’

From then on, the boy decided to seek the Devil out. One day he managed to see him face to face.

‘They say you can make people powerful, rich, and beautiful.’

‘To be totally honest, this is not true’ replied the Devil.
‘You have just been listening to the views of those who are trying to promote me.’

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Top 10 Tips for GROOMS

1. For those final touches, be careful not to choose an aftershave that is overpowering.

2. Once you have selected the colour and style of your suits, you and your groomsmen can make an evening of getting measured up. Remember to do this about three months prior to the wedding to guarantee you get what you want.

3. If purchasing your suit ensure there is sufficient time for any necessary alterations to be done. Similarly, any accessories that need to be purchased such as shoes, socks, shirts and ties should be done so at least two months beforehand. Be sure to have your shirt professionally pressed.

4. If hiring a suit, choose a hire company you feel can offer you expert advice and a wide range of styles, as well as fitting rooms to try them on – ensuring the correct cut and fit for you and your groomsmen.

5. Try on your actual hire suit at least two days prior to the wedding to check the colours, sizes and quality of the garments. If you have changed size for any reason, this allows time for adjustments, as well as time to fix any minor faults such as a missing button or a loose thread.

6. To look your best, organise a haircut and/or beard trim one week prior to the wedding for a more natural appearance. Also, treat yourself to a manicure so your hands look nice for your new wedding ring.

7. If possible, shave early in the morning of your wedding day to ensure any irritation settles prior to the wedding.

8. Do not organise your bachelor party for the night before the ceremony – you may need your “beauty sleep”. Instead, plan some group activity, such as golf, with your groomsmen as a way to relax before on the morning of your wedding.

9. Similarly, it will be a long day so do not be tempted to start celebrating before the ceremony.

10. To ensure you have a stress free day, delegate any last minute tasks to a reliable friend.

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The Meaning Behind the Wedding Ring !!

Ever wonder why we give our beloved a ring on our wedding day? It’s not just some scheme that the jewelry companies came up with; it’s an age old tradition that has been carried on throughout the ages, and for good reason. Nothing can be as eternal and as much of a symbol for the bond of marriage than a ring. The ring is a representation of the undying love and never-ending vows that we have and keep for our partner.

The ring is also a symbol in astrology to mean the Sun and the Moon. The sun and the moon, in astrological terms, is a reflection of the masculine and feminine energies within the cosmos. For couples who truly follow this symbolism out to the fullest, one of the partners will receive the gold ring to reflect the sun and the other a silver ring to reflect the moon.

There are also several folktales that are involved in the wearing of the rings. Rings have been worn for centuries for “protection”, with many believing that the wearer of certain blessed rings will receive certain amounts of protection. This practice is still carried out in most religious ceremonies today, as the priest “blessing” the two rings during the wedding ceremony is a way of providing protection to the couple.

If you have ever seen a Celtic wedding ring, then you know that there is a bit more to it than just having a “ring” placed on a finger. Celtic rings own a very long, long history, with most of them involving the geometric knot work that we have all come to recognize as being Celtic artwork and handicraft. These same knots are embellished on classic Celtic rings. The flowing knots are thought to be a sign of the spring, which is a reflection of a renewal, fertility, and the reawakening of the life force that surrounds us.

Have you ever wondered why the wedding ring is traditionally worn on the third finger of the left hand, which most of us recognize as being named the “ring finger? Story has it that the Romans believed that a vein in the ring finger ran directly to the heart. Having the ring on that finger provides not only protection, but it also fortifies the heart.

Here’s another explanation, again involving astrology. Some believe that each of the fingers on our hands are associated with a planet. The left hand ring finger is associated with the sun, so it is thought that wearing a ring on this finger is a symbol of “daylight” or seeing clearly and brightly.

Almost all cultures have their own story behind why they have wedding rings. If you happen to be fortunate enough to have wedding rings passed down to you from another generation, then you will have even greater stories to tell people about what that wedding ring means to you. No matter what the story, the wedding ring is a true reflection of the never ending love and partnership that you and your husband (or wife) now share as a single, cooperative unit.

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